Thursday, 27 March 2014

Why doesn't Mother's (and Father's) Day raise the same hackles Valentine's Day does?

I was struck today by the fact Mother's Day is getting more and more commercialised. Having already done present and card (and scheduled a visit, even if it's not on the day!), I was struck by how much MORE I am encouraged to spend by all outlets. My email box is full of Groupons, email invitations to Mother's Day presents, flower companies etc, and each thing I looked at looked more expensive than the last. I was also struck by how when my partner and I looked to go out one Mother's Day, we couldn't as all restaurants were packed.

And then it struck me, you don't hear siren voices on social media on the run up to Mother's or Father's Day ringing out about how it's a pathetic festival, designed for card and flower companies and restaurants to make a lot of money.

Also, what of those with terrible, or absent, or abusive parents - they must feel quite left out of these days, especially if they've had to cut contact with their parents for their own safety ? There are always siren calls to remember single people on Valentine's Day - or at least be sensitive about receiving a £100 bouquet in the office - perhaps that's sensible as well for this celebration - but nobody ever says it.

I put this to twitter and received several replies, I have a pet theory but not sure how it will stand up - I wonder if at least in some cases, making a case for the "commercialisation of Valentine's Day" and subsequently how you "won't be participating in it" precludes the person saying it from at least putting some effort (which doesn't have to involve cash) into expressing their affection for the other person. And that this may point to at least some issues with commitment. 

Alternatively, it may be the opposite - that the commercialisation of the thing MOST dear to  someone - their partner, someone that COULD leave at any time, unlike their parents - might be what really gets to people.

What do you think? Please answer in the comments. 

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